As children we all witness certain circumstances and situations that others around us may face. I can remember being a child and being able to recognize that my cousin was being isolated by her mother. She had five other siblings at the time and often times felt as though she was the “outcast” and didn’t fit in with her sisters and brothers. She also felt that her mother did not love her as much as the others and she felt alone. As a result of her feeling this way as a child and not receiving any help in this area, she still feels to this day that she is not a loved and valuable member in her family. She separates herself from family functions and outings and drowns herself in her work instead of focusing on other important factors in life. The way in which a child feels will affect the way in which they view life as an adult. When children face such stressors, they are vulnerable and cannot fully understand why things happen the way they do.
Since the start of the war I have been concerned about the stresses that children from that region face. Known stressors that affect the life of children in Afghanistan are military violence, possibility of post traumatic stress, and trauma. War affects us all but it affects children more. Often time’s children witness this violence and may seem powerless to what can be done to save and protect their family. War is a major factor and there must be some plans set in place to find possible solutions to such a horrible problem of children. Soldiers are trying to limit the amount of violence that children experience but cannot fully prevent such stressors from occurring.
ScienceDaily (2009 June 24). Afghani Children Suffering From Post-Traumatic Stress. Retrieved on November 22, 2012, from www.sciencedaily.com.
Wow,that is a strong feeling your cousin has about her childhood. I hoped, she can get help for the stress she feels. Family is really important. To feel like a outcast from her family is a concern. Instead of focusing on her work, she need to focus on building her relation with her mother. I wish her well!
ReplyDeleteEarly childhood experiences have such a profound effect on future development. Children remember so much and are highly affected by their environments. War is such a heart breaking circumstance and the children living in those environments are so often forgotten.
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DeleteI can only imagine the stress that your cousin felt as a child and also still as an adult. Family is so important and I wish that she felt close to them. Hopefullly when building her own family she can learn from others mistakes.
ReplyDeleteBeing the youngest of six children I can understand her feelings of isolation. I too am not a person who likes to be seen and perfers the background. As I got older I found out that it was not me but my siblings that were envious of me. Because they were older they did not get or have the same things that I had and as a result made me feel isolated. So tell your cousin that it is not her fault, she is worthy and her siblings are the ones who is missing out.
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